Category: Relationships

Something New, Something Old, Something Borrowed & Something Blue…

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This past Saturday, I went to a cousin of mine wedding. it was very beautiful and people were crying…
It just made me realize how much I want to get married! I am in this “Marriage Zone” and I have no idea on when I am getting out! I just believe when you meet someone and you fully commit to someone…not another person matters. Its like me and him are the only person in the world. And I love this feeling!
I am sure people doubted us and didn’t think it would work because of the long distance. People even started rumors stating he was married…but we have almost made it to 3yrs and are stronger than ever!
I want to be with him for the rest of my life. He’s my soulmate…
I can’t wait until its my turn…

I'm Just Not That Into You

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Hey Bloggers! So, now that I have a boyfriend, I guess men just love Ms.Vanilla (LOL). I am a very faithful woman. I love my man; we have a great trustworthy relationship. Therefore, I have not and would never cheat on him. That being said, a guy I used to talk to before my boyfriend has gotten back into contact with me via AIM (AOL Instant Messenger). He came right out and said he wants to see me. He lives about an hour away and just moved into another apartment and wants me to see it. Of course, I know how inappropriate this would be so I politely declined, but said we could, maybe, have lunch one day (Maybe meaning never). I gave my reasons on why…that I wouldn’t like my man going out with another woman and vise versa. He then said I was “tripping”…lol…couldn’t believe it. I kept the conversation and would love for my readers to read and let me know…who REALLY was tripping! And yes, I did use his REAL name and of course I am MsVanilla523. And I want you to notice how he tried to bring up why we stopped talking like that was my fault too! Here it goes
Reggie: so would u come up and hang with ya boi for a bit
MsVanilla523: I don’t think that would be appropriate for someone who is in a committed relationship. I wouldn’t want my man to be chilling with some other chick so I don’t do it …I am sure u know where I am coming from…
Reggie: i do
Reggie: But trust is got to be there
MsVanilla523: Oh it is
Reggie: plus im in a committed relationship as well
so whats the big deal
MsVanilla523: I rather not even put myself in that situation
Reggie: we friends
thats it
MsVanilla523: I know. I am not going to come to your apartment but maybe we can meet for lunch or something when u are down here
Reggie: K but u seem to be trippin about that. its not that deep, atleast not to me. but its cool, nevermind.
MsVanilla523: I am not tripping on anything. I have been with my man for 2 and half yrs. I have never even been out with another man before for even “coffee”. I just don’t…I never had a need to…basically because I have no male friends. He doesn’t have a need to go out with women because he doesn’t have female friends. It’s just how it is. I’m not trying to trip bout it…. that how my relationship is with my boyfriend and I respect that. It never has been an issue before, nor do I feel like making it one now. I said we could go out for lunch when u come into town. Is that not enough? lol
MsVanilla523: I’m just confused now…u don’t eat lunch?
Reggie: yea: i told u its cool
MsVanilla523: Lol Alrighty then
Reggie: u trippin
lol it aint that serious
MsVanilla523: lol ok. I guess I am then.I am not going to explain it again
Reggie: no need to
i understand
MsVanilla523: Oh I WASNT GOING TO lol
Reggie: OKAY GOOD
DUH Thats what i said
MsVanilla523: You are EXACTLY the same as I remember lol
MsVanilla523: Man
Reggie: u r too lol
MsVanilla523: Yeah, I still don’t deal with bullshit
Reggie: what the hell does that mean? u sayin im bullshit. wow, lets not go there. i still dont either, thats why we aint go no further then we did when we kicked it lol
Reggie: but its cool
i do understand
MsVanilla523: Wow
Reggie: u happy and im happy
MsVanilla523: Lol
Reggie: and i respect ur boundaries
as crazy as they seem
so
MsVanilla523: All I said was I don’t want to basically go to your apartment and I would rather just have lunch and this is what I get
MsVanilla523: Reggie, I am trying to be nice
Reggie: u went there
not me
MsVanilla523: And respectful to my boyfriend
Reggie: i am to
MsVanilla523: And I really don’t think you want to go there about we stopped talking cause it would hurt your feelings.
Reggie: Ok
MsVanilla523: I am not going to go there
And wasn’t going to bring that up
So
Reggie: i GOTCHU on that
MsVanilla523: I don’t think u should either
Reggie: bring what up
MsVanilla523: Exactly
Reggie: what will hurt my feelings? u musta forgot
why we stopped talking
MsVanilla523: Nooooooooooooooope. Not at all
I remember everything like it was yesterday
Reggie: well i remember on my end
u wanted to screw and i didnt want to go there LOL
MsVanila523: Lol Nope. I was okay with that and I told you that
Reggie: right……thats why u kept askin for it….lol
MsVanilla523: Yes, it would have been a struggle, but I would have gotten over the “no sex” thing….if you were straight with me about it. You never really told me if you were even celibate! I didn’t like how you didn’t even want to ACKNOWLEDGE we were “dating”. I wasn’t seeing anyone else and you wasn’t and we went out…THATS CALLED DATING….and I just didn’t agree that I had to date someone for 8 MONTHS before we got into a relationship…which you wanted to do! What is that? AND we argued too much. I never argue with anyone that I have talked to in the past…but you, therefore, I thought something want right about that. Plus, I didn’t care u didn’t want to have sex…but you didn’t even want to KISS ME…because you didn’t like the taste of another person’s tongue? WHAT? That’s weird when I can’t even kiss the guy I am dating.
Reggie: True
MsVanilla523: So yeah, So that what I said u are exactly the same. You always wanted to have the last word and always made an argument out of anything which u just did. I just said we could go to lunch and u said I was tripping! It seems that nothing makes u happy for some reason.
So that was the whole conversation. I didn’t quite understand WHY he got so mad. Maybe he really wanted me to come over so he could FINALLY hit this…BUT I got a REAL man so he lost those privileges! I just thought this whole thing was too funny and made me realize how happy I am with my man and how I am sooo glad I am not with him.
P.S. I really don’t think he got a girlfriend…who would want to argue constantly over silly shit…NOT ME!

Miss Independent Woman

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Haven’t been on here in a while because I have been soooo busy working and making that money! Lot’s all things have been going on in my life and I will be writing future Blogs to explain…so stay tuned.
I just got finished reading an associate of mine blog and I just became so irritated SO MUCH! It was basically about how women shouldn’t stay with men if the men were not “paying them out”. What is that? So, I guess all women today are all gold diggers?
I don’t understand why women have to fall in this stereotype that a woman can ONLY get into a relationship with a man ONLY if he “balling” and paying all your bills. Yes, I am sure it is nice when you don’t have to worry about your finances, but it comes a time in life where you have to look in the mirror and say to yourself “I’m over 21 and it’s time to grow up”. Get a job (Doesn’t have to be a 6 figure one but something would be nice), get your own car and start making and buying your own things. I don’t see how hard that is. I do it and the “adult life” has been working for me just fine! Hell yes, I would like to sit on my ass and watch my reality TV all damn day but making my OWN money and have my OWN, HARD WORKED MONEY in my bank account…PRICELESS!
And what is wrong if a woman has to pay her man’s phone bill every once in a while? Why can’t a man have a woman who likes to spoil her man? Why is it always the man’s role to pay everything? Where was that written in stone? Please, let me know…
I remember I was in my car listening to a radio station about a clip from a “Dr. Phil” episode. The show was basically about married couples who are going through serious problems and need counseling because they can’t handle the recession the world is in right now and thinking about getting a divorce. Are you serious? I think this is the most difficult time most people have EVER gone through and these are the time where we need to help each other the most. I think it’s immature and some people need to grow up. How bout you put aside your cocky, conceited, stuck –up….whatever you want to call it…attitude and help your men out!