Ladies, I Have Heard It All…Part 2

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This is the conclustion of my Blog, “Ladies, I Have Heard It All”. Before I posted that Blog, I told that guy that I was talking about that I was going to write a blog about him because of the craziness he was talking about and I just wanted everyone to know. He said he was fine with it and all he asked was for me not to put his screen name. A in it and I agreed.

Today, I was on Yahoo Messenger again and he IM’ed me about the Blog. I told him to go read it. The 1st thing he commented on was the description I wrote about him. He said, “defamation of character is coming up fo sure”.

I told him thats what he decribed he looked like and that was my first impression from what I saw from his pic. Then he was made how the comments were basically calling him immature (Which he is…so whats the problem). He then said, “terrance howard… i aint flva flave either. And for the record its mostly muscle when i bulk up during winter” (Which I could care less about). Then he tells me he is going to file a lawsuit and in his lawsuit he is going to tell them what I do on company time (Sometimes when I talk go him on Y! Messenger I at work) which is none of his BUSINESS! So I dont know where he is going with that. That shit don’t scare me and I told him how does he know I don’t talk to him while I am on my lunch?

I then told him I was getting irritated and he said he should be the one thats irritated because I “broke that confedentiality “yahoo code”‘ I said that I told him what I was going to write so what the fuck he is problem? I asked him what was he really mad about? Was he really mad about the Blog or that I said he wasn’t no Terrance Howard and asked him why he was crying. He said he is tired of trifling people are. And then he said this: “Its all good blog lady. I dont care to terrance Howard in the least. But thats how u high yellow people do it. House slave mentality but its all good.”

And you know what? I didnt even go it his level. I knew he wanted me to argue back and maybe if I was face to face with this bitch I would have but I am not one to argue over the net. Its childish as hell. So I told him to take me off his list and never IM me again. I am not AT ALL scared of his crazy ass lawsuit..cause HE HAS NONE! I told him everything I was going to blog about so…come on…come up with something better than that!

He’s a bitch and near 40yrs old and still single because no respectable woman WOULD EVER have a serious committment with his black ugly ass!

He is the one that should be sorry evr made me mad. Because ofths I am giving out his screen name, ladies if you ever want to IM him to cuss him the fuck out!

His screen name on Yahoo Messenger is blackpharaoh74.

DON’T EVER FUCK WITH ME AGAIN BITCH! AND I HOPE THAT BITCH ASS NIGGA READS THIS SHIT! FUCK YOU AND GO TO HELL NIGGA!!!

Big Girls Don't Cry

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It has taken years for me to feel comfortable in my own skin. It all started when I entered middle school. I got my period at the age of 11. My breasts starting growing like crazy and before I know it, I was in the 6th grade with a 34D bra. My hips were getting wider. I had fat cubby cheeks (Which I still have). I was very shapely, but I wasn’t fat, but in my eyes it was embarrassing. No one in my class nor anyone else I knew that was the same age, at that time, was going through what I was. I didn’t like it…I hated it.
At the time, my mother didn’t believe I was developing early, but that I was just getting fat. Because she thought it…that’s what I started to believe…which made me want to eat more. I have 4 sisters and all of them were skinny, therefore, I was the odd child out. This is when they started the name-calling. I was called fat in so many different ways I can’t even describe. It wasn’t a good time in my life. Yes, I had 2 parents who loved me, I lived in a great home and neighborhood and went to a great school but I was hurting inside. I was going through something no one educated me on. My body was changing and I was looking different from other girls and I had no idea why. My parents didn’t teach me about body changing and puberty. Maybe because she didn’t think she had to because I was still so young and my sisters were much older when they experienced it. My own family was calling me names because they were seeing I was growing different from them and to them it was fat and ugliness.
Therefore, I felt extremely ugly and developed low self-confidence in myself. As I went through high school, I did gain more weight. I was a size 12 and still felt extremely ugly. I didn’t know how to feel sexy about myself. I didn’t know how to love my body. I started caring about what others thought of me. I knew certain people’s opinions shouldn’t matter, but at times a person will determine their self-worth based on what people say about them. Being talked about and called mean names will hurt the average person, I don’t care how they act on the outside.
It took me until my junior year in college to finally realize, I will never be a size 4 and probably not even a size 10. But as long as I am happy and love myself…that is all that matters. I began to know what feels right for me. You have to find the right hairstyle and the right clothes to feel sexy. You have to study your body and take an interest in what you like the best. Accentuate those areas that you like the best and confine the ones you don’t. Example: I wear jeans that accentuate my hips and shirts that make my breasts fuller (Even though they don’t need to look ANY fuller lol) and my waist look smaller, and when I take it all off I’m still happy that there is such a thing made just for me.
Today I am a size 15 (At one point I was at a size 18, but started working out and losing weight) and loving me, myself and my body more and more everyday. I still have my days where I want to change things about my body, but I still love me. I guess, I can be described under the category of BBW (Big, Beautiful Woman) and I will defiantly take on the title because we are beautiful in everyway.
When it comes to poking fun at those that may be a little or even a great deal overweight can be devastating to those that are being poked fun at. It’s not necessary, just like big people picking on skinny people aren’t necessary. Being too skinny and being too big can be unhealthy, so it’s all bad. It’s terrible when people have to defend themselves or argue personal beliefs or lifestyles, when we all are beautiful in many ways despite size. We need to embrace the good and not be so critical of what we feel is bad. While I do agree with many of the issues especially health, weight gain or loss, and poor eating habits and dieting that cause disease, if one of my big girls or fat boys wants to eat, live, dress and express who they are in a way that others may disagree fine, disagree. But let us not have a disrespectful attitude towards people that are that does nothing to elevate or enhance the beauty of being BIG. Surely we can discuss other things that would help us to live better as big people and not feel bad about it. Many of us had to deal with issues since childhood about our weight, is it fair that we still have to face those same issues: ABOUT WEIGHT, when we have matured and developed on the inside no longer the same person internally but judged externally because of unburned calories that turn into FAT.
It does not matter the size or shape of a man or woman to determine whether they are attractive or not. Furthermore, if a person worries about what another person thinks of them then that in it is low self-esteem (I had to learn that myself). There are many big women and men in this world and it is not up to us to make a judgment on whether they are attractive or not. If a certain person is attractive to you then how big or small they are should not be an issue. There are many individuals who are not heavy that are not attractive to some people. In addition, there are many individuals who are not heavy and also have health issues. Just because a person is heavy does not always mean they have health issues, and just because a person is small does not mean they do not have health issues. The bottom line is this, why did you ask the question at all? What reason are you trying to determine if heavy women are really attractive? All women, who loves themselves first and believe in themselves first and not care what another person thinks of them is very attractive whether they are heavy or small. We all came from the same God and God did not create anything ugly. We all came from the same God and God did not create anything ugly. Our personalities and who we are on the inside can truly determine what we look to others on the outside.

Ladies, I Have Heard It All…

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We can have Yahoo Messenger up at my job to talk to other co-workers about work things rather than email, but of course, I have to be the bad girl and sometimes use ot for my own personal use. I was a little bored, so I went into a Yahoo Chat and this guy started chatting with me. I love Yahoo Messenger! I been on there since I was in middle school, so I know all the games when it comes to Instant Messaging lol.
I told him up front how I got a man (I like for men to know so they know I am NOT going to have cyber with them..yes people still do that). We came upon the conversation of couples living together then marriage. I told him when I do live in the same state as my man I would like to have my own place and then maybe talk about living together at a later date. He agreed and said thats exactly what he likes because he gets tired of women and don’t like to be with them 24/7 plus he wants to be able to “miss her”. I was like oooookay and told him that eventually I would like to move in with my man but right now we straight just living separately.
He then went on to say how he knows how he is and he will get tired of being with a woman every single day so when he does get married…him and his wife will leave at different houses and see each other maybe 3 times a week (He doesn’t want to see her everyday). I was so confused when he said this so I asked if there a big reason why you wouldn’t want to see your wife everyday? Is the only reason because you want to be able to miss her? Guess what he said ladies…”u’re misunderstanding me. i would love her for her inteligence, poise, grace etc. thing is if i see u everyday i loose my admiration”. I couldn’t believe what I was READING! So I said that he must not really love her if he loses admiration for her that freakin quick.
He then went on to say its his “theory” that when he lives with women he begins to see the flaws in the person that he didnt see before. So I asked what the flaws were…I hope you are sitting down gurls! This motha fucka said, “dont hate a brother…. shes got more cellulite than i noticed before. she really aint all that with no make up on.” Gurl’s, I had to take a step back from my computer cause I was seriously about to hit something. I couldn’t believe there is a man out there thinking like this…what if there’s more? So this is what I said to him…first I asked what the hell he looked liked. He said he was 6″ and weigh 225 but his pic looked like he was 260. He claims he lost all that weight. I couldn’t really see his face but he wasn’t no Terrance Howard! I then told him “no one is perfect. If you want a flawless barbie doll go buy one cause you not going to find one in this world. Even if you do, people age. We winkle, we have babies and get fat and our titties hang. What are you going to do…pay for her to go Dr. 90210 everytime you want somethng nipped and tucked? Thats crazy. What if she thought that shit of you. She woke up one day and said your dick too little or you too much of a fat ass or you just to plain ugly for her? Does that make you feel good? Thats really fucked up shit…you know you aint perfect and by the shit you just was saying looks like you got a lot of growing up to do and you almost damn near 40 (He said he was 34yrs old). But thats your opinion and your life so live it to the fullest.” But I really think if you REALLY want a long lasting…
He understoodd where I was coming from but insisted that is how is he. I told him good luck in finding a woman to fullfill THOSE needs cause thats fuckin CRRRRRAZY!
I then asked for him to tell me how he would tell women his theory (He has said before he has had numerous women cuss him out when he talks to them about it) and said he never would actually tell women he is dating! Wow. I really feel bad for the woman who get this man…he’s def a winner!

Why Can't We All Just Get Along?

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Ever since I was younger, I always wanted to have many friends. I wanted everyone to like me. I loved the idea of having a lot of great girlfriends to go to when I was having problems or just to go out with. In my eyes, having great friends were a necessity because who doesn’t have friends?
As I got older, I noticed how women minds change and they start to argue more than men, gossip and even hold grudges for a long period of time. There are a lot of women who are hard to get along with. I never agreed with this before, but as I get older the more, I believe its true. You never hear men saying “I aint hanging with him because he always talking bout me!” Men don’t do petty shit like that. I am sure there are some out there, but the women are outweighing men in this category. They all hang out and actually get along! Thank God, I have a great and versatile personality where I have never had a problem communicating or getting along with anyone. People love me! I have a great personality, have great communication skills and I very good listener.
I have heard so many times women say they have a lot of male friends for this simple reason: They can’t get along with women.
Why is that? Are you that immature or that stuck up? Are your friends not enough sluts for you or do you keep taking your friends man? Are you a hater and just get jealous easily? Or are you just a plain fucking bitch? I am not calling any particular woman out, but a situation I have had recently just got me thinking about this…
I recently wrote a Blog titled “Miss Independent Woman”. It was about how I don’t agree with women dating men who have money for the simple reason to have them pay for everything. I think people should grow up, make their own money and support themselves (If they can’t financially that’s another story but if someone is deliberately trying to get with someone because of the fact they want their bills paid…that’s a gold-digger). This Blog was a rebuttal from a Blog I read from a co-worker of mine. That was her opinion that she wants a man to pay for everything for her and it was mine to voice the opposite of that. That’s what Blogs are for…to vent and voice your opinions however you like. The url on this site is http://www.livefearconquer.blogspot.com/ so if you don’t like what you read please move on. These are my opinions and my views.
I believe this person read this particular Blog because she stopped talking to me unexpectedly…for months. I was very surprised, because like I said before, I get along with everyone…I don’t have problems with anyone…I don’t argue (Unless I have to) I am pretty loveable…seriously (LOL). So I asked her if I did something wrong and she said I did piss her off but now she is over it…but she won’t tell me what I did. Which I thought was pretty immature. If I have a problem with anyone (Especially someone I thought I was tight with), I would let them know why they made me mad and move on…someone people rather hold grudges and rather ruin something that could have been a great friendship in a mess.
So I decided I am through. I am so tired of reaching out to people who don’t give a fuck. I am 25 and I have great friends (I don’t have much but I rather have a few then a lot of bitches who claim they got my back) behind me, I have my man, family (When they getting on my nerves) and God. That’s all I need. I will continue to be nice and courteous to people, of course, but I am not going to go out my way to hang out with people (Get stood up a couple times, but that’s ANOTHER BLOG PEOPLE), befriend them and they get mad about something so little and petty and never want to talk to me again in life. What’s the point? Seriously. That’s a thing you did in high school. We are grown! I would never stop talking to someone for them expressing their opinions. But then again…I really don’t know if this is the reason…this is a really good guess…because I haven’t done anything out of the ordinary so…if its not my bad (LOL But this has turned into a really good Blog and everything I have said it still true regarding women not getting along with other women).
So I am going to continue to live my life…continue to write what I want and how I want to. Continue to work and make my money and pay my own bills and handle mines!
I am a very open-minded individual and love making friends so everyone is welcome in my world!

Happy 4th Of July Eve

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I am so excited I am going to be heading my way to Chicago, IL tomorrow evening to spend the holiday and weekend with my man. We have been doing this long-distance thing for a while now and I can’t wait until the day when we will be together…
I hope everyone has a great holiday and has lots to eat. Don’t get too close tro the firecrackers!

Ex-Lover/Ex-Boyfriend Doesn’t Equal Friends?

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Since I was 18, I have had two boyfriend’s (One is including my current boyfriend) and some guys who were just some hook-up’s every once in awhile. Some people I have lost touch with…not on purpose, but because I may have lost their number or other contact information. My ex-boyfriend emails me every once in awhile just to see if I am still alive and to say hi and that’s about it. I have never had a problem keeping in touch with an ex-boyfriend or anyone that I have had some form of an intimate relationship with. It never really bothered me, nor did it concern me thinking the conversation would be awkward or “mixed feelings” would come back.
That being said, I recently (Recent as in yesterday) came into contact with an old “friend” of mine. At the time, I was single and just having fun in meeting new guys. We only went out on an “official” date once, but had numerous conversations and lots of laughs. We had sex a couple times, but I still considered him being my friend. We were not close to being in a relationship, nor had we discussed it, but in my eyes we were chilling.
During our conversation via Yahoo Messenger, he told me how he was so surprised he was hearing from me. I asked why and he said because of our “relationship”. I told him “Well, yeah, we fucked but we still had good conversations and I thought we was cool” and he agreed but then he told me that he felt awkward talking to me and that he normally doesn’t stay in contact with past “lovers” (This was his word. Didn’t think we were making “love” but I guessed he was trying to be polite and not say fuck buddy) and ex-girlfriend’s.
I then thought “Wow” and told him if he felt that way I won’t have to contact him again. He said okay and that was it.
After our conversation, I felt like he stepped on my pinky toe. I thought we were on a more friends’ basis, but I am assuming from that discussion that I was dead wrong. It goes to show you can have such a great time with someone and have great chemistry and conversation and believes you guys are BFF’s…but in the end that person could be thinking something more different than you will ever know.
It sucked for me for a minute, then I was telling my friend Kyle about it and he pulled me back to reality. He told me to basically fuck him and that I have a great man anyways and I shouldn’t be worried about that. Which is so true.
Just wanted to know of my readers out there…Has anyone made a decision they were never going to talk to past “lovers” or ex’s? How did you come up with this decision? And why?

Go Cry Me A River

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Hello Readers,
Not too much has been going on. I am still pretty saddened of the loss of Michael Jackson. It’s still so shocking. He was a great entertainer and God defiantly blessed him with much talent. You will truly be missed, Michael.
I just think it’s so funny how people say how much they love and adore music artists and may buy their CD’s here and there…but AS SOON AS THEY DIE…they are getting posters, putting their pictures as backgrounds on their computers, and hurrying to the stores to buy all the CD’s they DIDN’T buy when the artist was alive! I understand you want to get memories but, you were not picking up their albums, posters and what no when they were alive…how are you helping them now that they are dead?
That’s a fan…but to a certain level. Yeah you like the person, you can maintain to listen to their full songs when the come on the radio and if a concert pop up on the TV, maybe, you will watch…I was a Backstreet Boys FAN…HARDCORE! I had every single CD AND cassette tape! Everything I saw them in a magazine I cut it out and put it in a PHOTO ALBUM! (LOL And I took this to college ALONG with my BSB BOOKBAG!) Every time they came on TV, I got a blank tape and TAPED THE WHOLE SHOW (I believe I had 3 full tapes of clips of their videos, shows they did and concerts. I randomly sat and watched them when I was horny for the BSB)! Now, to me that’s a true fan. I didn’t wait until they all died and then went out and got everything their face was on. And you know what…I STILL listen to their music and I am hoping they come together again and make a freakin movie or something cause I will defiantly go see it! Now that’s what a fan is. But that’s just my opinion…
As in my previous Blog, I discussed how I am trying very hard to manage my funds better and to purchase things that are “needed” and not “wanted”. Well, I will like to say, for the first time ever, I have purchased my own Laptop! I got it from QVC and it is a HP Pavilion and it’s 15.4in. The color is gold and it is so beautiful! This is something I need (And wanted) and its all mine! I bought it with my own hard earned money and it felt great! I haven’t been using it a lot yet, because I work so much and when I get home I pass out but I defiantly will this weekend…so can’t wait for that!
Another thing I realized is how fast “associates” come and go (Maybe that’s why there are associates, but you get what I am saying). For those you don’t know what I am referring to…associates are people that you don’t “claim” as your friends…for whatever reasons…maybe you don’t trust them enough, you don’t know them well, you talk every once in awhile…whatever the reason may be…they are not apart of your “real friend” circle. I have had PLENTY of associates in my life. Most of them were because I didn’t trust them and wasn’t going to bother to let them into my life. And others were because I didn’t know them enough and by the time I thought we really good friends…we stopped talking for whatever reason…
One situation that recently just happened was myself being very friendly to a particular person (Female). In the beginning of us meeting, we got along fantastic! People were asking if we knew each other from other place. All of a sudden, for whatever reason, she stopped talking to me. This is someone I talked to everyday so when this happened, it did make me wonder if I did something wrong, which I know I didn’t, so I didn’t let it phase me and stopped worrying about it because I thought maybe she was just going through something and would come around when she wants to (Especially knowing how females can act sometimes. They may hear something and hold a grudge for the MOST childish things). After months of not talking, I finally see her and I said excited, “Hey gurl!” and then she said, without even looking at me, “Hey” and kept walking…with a straight face. “Wow” was all I said in my head. I don’t know what I did or maybe I didn’t do anything. Maybe she just doesn’t want to have that relationship with me as before. I thought we were beginning to become really good friends…I let her know things I really didn’t need to let her know about. I could have sat back and let someone (Someone in particular) make a fool of her, but I didn’t because I value the relationships I have with certain people because of the “good relationship” (Meaning, I don’t find good relationships with people often), but maybe she thought otherwise. But, like I said before, associates come and go. I am very blessed I do have the one great friend who has stayed the longest…from teens to real women…love you Mz. CeCe (LOL).
This is starting to be a long Blog, but I have one more thing to talk about. I laugh every now and then about this because I really think people believe I am a dumb ass and they can get over on me. I just talked about how people will stop talking to you without giving a 2-week notice (Song by Fantasia…Love it!) and there are other people who you cuss out and TELL them you don’t want to talk to them anymore and they CONTINUE TO TALK TO YOU! I fell out with a female because she told someone something…that in which told my sister…that was only meant for her ears. Let’s call this person Dana. Dana is someone I met when I was in middle school…and hasn’t seen her since! I found her on MySpace and we talk every once in a while on there or on Yahoo Messenger. I have never told Dana any personal business of mine…this was the first time (And the LAST). I asked Dana why she told this person my business and that I will never feel comfortable telling her anything else about me or basically anything at all that would come out of my mouth and that I never want to speak to her again. Dana says she never said anything. People, DANA WAS THE ONLY PERSON I TOLD! So, I asked how else would my sister find out? She claims she doesn’t know! And we have this crazy back and forth…back and forth. We then don’t speak for months…she then contact me on Facebook and I have NOTHING to say…she then sends me something on Yahoo Messenger. I start to have simple conversation and she says something smart on why I can’t let anything go and that I am acting “stupid”. That’s when I blew up and said, “If you just tell me, right here and now, tell me the truth…if you told her…I would let this go and never bring it up again.” She then she lied again and said no. Now, maybe its me, but I seriously don’t understand if I tell 1 person something…and it ends up where 2 other people know…that person I told MUST have said something! Am I wrong? Dana fought with me tooth and nails saying this didn’t happen…but, I can’t make anyone tell the truth so, I guess only God and her will know what really happened. The point I wanted to get across is the people who you don’t have a problem with suddenly can stop talking and leave you alone forever and the people you always have the problem with…constantly coming back to bite you in the ass again and again. Can’t win…

Something New, Something Old, Something Borrowed & Something Blue…

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This past Saturday, I went to a cousin of mine wedding. it was very beautiful and people were crying…
It just made me realize how much I want to get married! I am in this “Marriage Zone” and I have no idea on when I am getting out! I just believe when you meet someone and you fully commit to someone…not another person matters. Its like me and him are the only person in the world. And I love this feeling!
I am sure people doubted us and didn’t think it would work because of the long distance. People even started rumors stating he was married…but we have almost made it to 3yrs and are stronger than ever!
I want to be with him for the rest of my life. He’s my soulmate…
I can’t wait until its my turn…

I'm Just Not That Into You

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Hey Bloggers! So, now that I have a boyfriend, I guess men just love Ms.Vanilla (LOL). I am a very faithful woman. I love my man; we have a great trustworthy relationship. Therefore, I have not and would never cheat on him. That being said, a guy I used to talk to before my boyfriend has gotten back into contact with me via AIM (AOL Instant Messenger). He came right out and said he wants to see me. He lives about an hour away and just moved into another apartment and wants me to see it. Of course, I know how inappropriate this would be so I politely declined, but said we could, maybe, have lunch one day (Maybe meaning never). I gave my reasons on why…that I wouldn’t like my man going out with another woman and vise versa. He then said I was “tripping”…lol…couldn’t believe it. I kept the conversation and would love for my readers to read and let me know…who REALLY was tripping! And yes, I did use his REAL name and of course I am MsVanilla523. And I want you to notice how he tried to bring up why we stopped talking like that was my fault too! Here it goes
Reggie: so would u come up and hang with ya boi for a bit
MsVanilla523: I don’t think that would be appropriate for someone who is in a committed relationship. I wouldn’t want my man to be chilling with some other chick so I don’t do it …I am sure u know where I am coming from…
Reggie: i do
Reggie: But trust is got to be there
MsVanilla523: Oh it is
Reggie: plus im in a committed relationship as well
so whats the big deal
MsVanilla523: I rather not even put myself in that situation
Reggie: we friends
thats it
MsVanilla523: I know. I am not going to come to your apartment but maybe we can meet for lunch or something when u are down here
Reggie: K but u seem to be trippin about that. its not that deep, atleast not to me. but its cool, nevermind.
MsVanilla523: I am not tripping on anything. I have been with my man for 2 and half yrs. I have never even been out with another man before for even “coffee”. I just don’t…I never had a need to…basically because I have no male friends. He doesn’t have a need to go out with women because he doesn’t have female friends. It’s just how it is. I’m not trying to trip bout it…. that how my relationship is with my boyfriend and I respect that. It never has been an issue before, nor do I feel like making it one now. I said we could go out for lunch when u come into town. Is that not enough? lol
MsVanilla523: I’m just confused now…u don’t eat lunch?
Reggie: yea: i told u its cool
MsVanilla523: Lol Alrighty then
Reggie: u trippin
lol it aint that serious
MsVanilla523: lol ok. I guess I am then.I am not going to explain it again
Reggie: no need to
i understand
MsVanilla523: Oh I WASNT GOING TO lol
Reggie: OKAY GOOD
DUH Thats what i said
MsVanilla523: You are EXACTLY the same as I remember lol
MsVanilla523: Man
Reggie: u r too lol
MsVanilla523: Yeah, I still don’t deal with bullshit
Reggie: what the hell does that mean? u sayin im bullshit. wow, lets not go there. i still dont either, thats why we aint go no further then we did when we kicked it lol
Reggie: but its cool
i do understand
MsVanilla523: Wow
Reggie: u happy and im happy
MsVanilla523: Lol
Reggie: and i respect ur boundaries
as crazy as they seem
so
MsVanilla523: All I said was I don’t want to basically go to your apartment and I would rather just have lunch and this is what I get
MsVanilla523: Reggie, I am trying to be nice
Reggie: u went there
not me
MsVanilla523: And respectful to my boyfriend
Reggie: i am to
MsVanilla523: And I really don’t think you want to go there about we stopped talking cause it would hurt your feelings.
Reggie: Ok
MsVanilla523: I am not going to go there
And wasn’t going to bring that up
So
Reggie: i GOTCHU on that
MsVanilla523: I don’t think u should either
Reggie: bring what up
MsVanilla523: Exactly
Reggie: what will hurt my feelings? u musta forgot
why we stopped talking
MsVanilla523: Nooooooooooooooope. Not at all
I remember everything like it was yesterday
Reggie: well i remember on my end
u wanted to screw and i didnt want to go there LOL
MsVanila523: Lol Nope. I was okay with that and I told you that
Reggie: right……thats why u kept askin for it….lol
MsVanilla523: Yes, it would have been a struggle, but I would have gotten over the “no sex” thing….if you were straight with me about it. You never really told me if you were even celibate! I didn’t like how you didn’t even want to ACKNOWLEDGE we were “dating”. I wasn’t seeing anyone else and you wasn’t and we went out…THATS CALLED DATING….and I just didn’t agree that I had to date someone for 8 MONTHS before we got into a relationship…which you wanted to do! What is that? AND we argued too much. I never argue with anyone that I have talked to in the past…but you, therefore, I thought something want right about that. Plus, I didn’t care u didn’t want to have sex…but you didn’t even want to KISS ME…because you didn’t like the taste of another person’s tongue? WHAT? That’s weird when I can’t even kiss the guy I am dating.
Reggie: True
MsVanilla523: So yeah, So that what I said u are exactly the same. You always wanted to have the last word and always made an argument out of anything which u just did. I just said we could go to lunch and u said I was tripping! It seems that nothing makes u happy for some reason.
So that was the whole conversation. I didn’t quite understand WHY he got so mad. Maybe he really wanted me to come over so he could FINALLY hit this…BUT I got a REAL man so he lost those privileges! I just thought this whole thing was too funny and made me realize how happy I am with my man and how I am sooo glad I am not with him.
P.S. I really don’t think he got a girlfriend…who would want to argue constantly over silly shit…NOT ME!

Miss Independent Woman

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Haven’t been on here in a while because I have been soooo busy working and making that money! Lot’s all things have been going on in my life and I will be writing future Blogs to explain…so stay tuned.
I just got finished reading an associate of mine blog and I just became so irritated SO MUCH! It was basically about how women shouldn’t stay with men if the men were not “paying them out”. What is that? So, I guess all women today are all gold diggers?
I don’t understand why women have to fall in this stereotype that a woman can ONLY get into a relationship with a man ONLY if he “balling” and paying all your bills. Yes, I am sure it is nice when you don’t have to worry about your finances, but it comes a time in life where you have to look in the mirror and say to yourself “I’m over 21 and it’s time to grow up”. Get a job (Doesn’t have to be a 6 figure one but something would be nice), get your own car and start making and buying your own things. I don’t see how hard that is. I do it and the “adult life” has been working for me just fine! Hell yes, I would like to sit on my ass and watch my reality TV all damn day but making my OWN money and have my OWN, HARD WORKED MONEY in my bank account…PRICELESS!
And what is wrong if a woman has to pay her man’s phone bill every once in a while? Why can’t a man have a woman who likes to spoil her man? Why is it always the man’s role to pay everything? Where was that written in stone? Please, let me know…
I remember I was in my car listening to a radio station about a clip from a “Dr. Phil” episode. The show was basically about married couples who are going through serious problems and need counseling because they can’t handle the recession the world is in right now and thinking about getting a divorce. Are you serious? I think this is the most difficult time most people have EVER gone through and these are the time where we need to help each other the most. I think it’s immature and some people need to grow up. How bout you put aside your cocky, conceited, stuck –up….whatever you want to call it…attitude and help your men out!