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Un-Welcome Guest

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Yesterday, my friend Carilyn and I went to Emagine theater to go see New Moon. It was amazing like I knew it would be. I love the theater we went to. It had an open bar and of course I got my Long Island (Thats my go-to drink now-a-days) and it was sooo strong and good! Yum!
After the movies we went over to Hooters to eat. I never ate there before but heard the food was good. Which it wasn’t. I had a fish sandwich and fries…fish was hard and the fries was under cooked. Never will go to again…
While we were there a mutual “internet” friend we talk to sent Carilyn a message asking her if he could join us (I’m assuming he read her tweet in knowing where we were. He said he works across the street and was so close so he stopped by). I met this guy on Yahoo Messenger…maybe in a chat room. I have talked to him on there for yeeeeears. But we never met. I have this thing that I keep internet friends…internet friends and real life friends….real life friends. How him and Carilyn met on the internet…niether her nor I really know the answer to that question. I have a HUUUUGE hunch: Me and him were talking over the chat one day about a party my friend Carilyn was going to…it was called the Black Party a lot of people here go to. He was going as well. He claimed maybe he knew her…I said I highly doubt it. Next thing I knew, he was following her on twitter…all of a sudden he’s Facebook friends with her. I became a little bit angry cause I believed after he and I had that conversation that he took it upon himself to go to my Twitter (He & I are following each other) look for her, follow her and then look for her on Facebook. She doesn’t know him. She didn’t think anything of it because their mutual friend on Facebook is another guy she knows so she just think he added her because of him. Why I dont think so? Because this guy is a lame…while we messaged each other he constantly asked for pics of me, relationships, do I got a man, my friends I could hook him up with. Its like he was basically being a little desperate and my gurl is starting to feel the same way cause she now getting the same 21 questions. No, I dont think he is crazy…someone just want hold hundreds of conversations with you for more than 5yrs and never try and do something (As in asking to meet constantly) …just think he wants a little more female attention.
Back to the story, so once Carilyn told he could come (Which she really didnt, but she was being nice) he shows up 10min later like he was outside waiting for her response. All of a sudden, he there standing saying hi…ummm ok. The conversation was ok. But for some reason it was just a little bit awkward. You could tell he was tryin to talk to my gurl and she def wasn’t interested. lol I was getting a little drunk because I had another 2 Long Islands :). I asked him why he wasn’t drinking. He said he had to get home and clean his apartment! I looked at my phone and it was around 8pm! I was like ummm ok. That made me think he was more of a lame that I thought! I then told him I would buy him a shot…just 1 shot. He said he used to drink all the time but doesn’t anymore like that. Every now and then. Ok ok ok. So he didnt take it so I let it go. Our food came…he claimed his food was cold to get more food. Carilyn thought he was being cheap and wanted to get more food. lol
After eating, we went over to Lucky’s. Its a fun place with lots of games and arcades…and a bar! We bought a card with money to play. We just paid $5. Carilyn thought a real gentleman would have paid for me and her to pay. I understood where she was coming from but it wasn’t a date or anything…but I understood. We played some games. We then went to the bar. Carilyn got a drink. I just got water because I had to sober up to drive back home (Dont drink and drive!). All of a freakin sudden…he WANTS A DRINK! Im like I offered you that in the restaurant and now he wants it! But I am a woman of my word…but he didn’t want a shot. He wants a drink. I asked him what kind. For a person that used to drink allll the time, he had no clue. Dont remember what his favorite drink was or nothing…so you know what he got…Rum & Coke. I just started cracking up. I told him to get a man drink. lol He laughed and he still wanted it so I said fine. Carilyn had a small amount of wine left and he asked for it. I guess to front he could down it or something? Yeah…big man!
I can read people so well sometimes. I dont understand why he had to lie and say he used to drink all the time. With me, you dont have to lie to kick it. I have at least 1 friend that doesnt drink. I dont try and persuade her to. Im fine with it. Life goes on. lol He obviously didnt know what he wanted cause he didnt know what kind of drinks are out there…so he got the easiest one he could think of. And probably the lightest…just a baby drink…or maybe Im just an alchi! lol
So we are finally leaving and Carilyn and I are going to my car and he to his. On the way to my car, he claims he will walk us to my car. Im like ok. As we are walking, we dont even get to the parking lot…we are about to cross the street to get to the cars and he says “Ok see you guys later”. I say “I thought you were going to walk us to my car”. He said “ITS TOO COLD!” Are you serious? YOU volunteered to walk us. We didnt ask. And now all of a sudden, its too cold? So we said fine. Bye. And we started walking (I was laughing…in disgust). He then says ok he will walk us but can I give him a ride to his car. I just looked at him…then looked away thinkin “Is this brother fo real?” By the time we got to my car, he says he is pretty near by and says he will walk. I give him a hand slap and say holla!
So it was a fun night….

He's Out Of My Life (Rated PG-13)

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You ever sit down and talk to your girls or guy friends about past relationships and laugh. Laugh about how you could ever talk to that person because now he is such a loser and not doing anything with his life. Or because she is now the slut of the town and you can’t imagine what interest you ever saw in her? Or maybe you have just grown up so much and can’t even imagine that person was your “type”?
I was talking to my girl today and we were talking about past men we have been with and so glad we don’t even talk to them anymore…
Before I met my boyfriend I was talking to a guy. He name is Reggie (And yes, this is his REAL name!) and unfortunately he was not close to looking like Reggie Bush (Haha) but that is not why I liked (And I use this word very lightly) him.
I met him while I was in college at MSU. He was music major and that was the LOVE of his life…and I am POSITIVE it still is!
We had a class or 2 together and he got my AIM from Facebook (Damn Facebook) and started to message me. He continuously asked me out so finally I said…what the heck, lets get a free meal and get this over with (I know…kinda mean…but don’t act like you never did it). The date actually went pretty nice. He was pretty funny, attractive and had a nice smile. So we began “talking”.
Now, during this time is when I graduated from college and before I got the job I have now. So, I was basically broke as hell and looking for employment. And he knew this when we started talking. After we go on a couple of days he then begins to tell me that he wants to go out to dinner more but I declined because of the fact that I didn’t have any funds and I didn’t always want him to pay. He then tells me how I “need to contribute more to the relationship”. I told him what do you want me to do? Go rob a bank? I am unemployed and B R O K E! And then he starts to make little side remarks saying when I do get a job I am going to need to pay him back!
So, we basically stopped going out to dinner. One day he calls me and says if I have any money to go get something to eat at T.G.I.Friday’s. I say noooo. So what does he do? He goes by himself and then CALLS me from the table while he eats!!! Telling me how good the food is and how he can’t get enough of it. I told his ass to call me later!
Another time, he wants me to come back to his apartment. He lived about an hour away from me near Flint, MI. He picks me up and we are on our way. When we finally get to city (I forgot where he lives) and he is hungry. So he wants McDonald’s. He claims he doesn’t have any money on him, so he asks me if I would care if got something from the Dollar Menu for me. It really wasn’t a big deal, but then he got a big ass Big Mac meal for HIMSELF and SUPER-SIZED IT! Lol We got back to his apartment, and he is SMASHING this food! I didn’t even get a damn drink to wash my shit down with! This is when the 1st thought came through this fella may not be the man for Kristen Renee’!
Maybe I could take him being so freakin cheap if he was laying down the pipe…but he wasn’t CLOOOOSE! I love to talk about sex. Nothing surprises me about it and I am pretty open to a lot of things…but he didn’t want to do anything. You know what all he wanted to do? Kiss and FINGER ME! And when I say kiss…I mean closed mouth and with your lips puckered…yes, like a freakin smooch! He told me he didn’t like the taste of another woman’s tongue. I wanted to ask him, “What are you?” What man doesn’t like a good sloppy kiss! He didn’t eat pussy. I asked him about it and he said, “Pee comes from that”. I almost fell out! And he doesn’t have sex either. This is a 25-year-old man! But then it all came clear. Before me, he only had sex 1 time which was 4yrs prior to me and the person he had it with was a virgin also and I guess somebody did something wrong during cause they never fucked after that! So maybe he was just a little inexperienced and shy…and let me tell you something else…a woman can be fingered so much! I had to fake it just so he would stop! I wasnt into it anymore after a certain point, therefore, I would get dry and I guess he being so inexperienced he didnt know (But who can’t grasp that a woman is not moist anymore) and kept doing it. And I would be sore for a week cause he kept jabbing his damn finger in me so damn hard! lol FUCCCK!
He always asked me what would I do if he told me he didn’t want to have sex and I answered that doesn’t mean anything if I really liked the person and I would respect that. But he never came out and said it. I just wished he was honest because the whole situation could have been better and I defiantly wouldn’t have been talking about sex so much either. Lol
We also argued a lot. Over stupid things. He always, always, always had to have the last word on everything and that irritated me more than anything! I don’t like arguing and I dont like confrontation about petty things.
I was telling my friend I cant IMAGINE how it would be if I was still with him. Well, I know I wouldn’t be. I need more and he defiantly wasn’t doing it. And I am not saying I want to be spoiled and taken out to dinner every night, but I don’t want my companion to be cheap. I am not anywhere near being cheap. If I want something I get it, if I have the money to spare. If my boyfriend needs or want something I will get something for him without hesitation. I need to know if I ever do need something I know I can go to my boyfriend and know he got my back. Nor do I need sex. But damn…is it soo good!
Another thing I believe about relationships is both individuals have to be on the same level when it comes to intimacy. Wheather the couple is both virgins or one is a freak out of this world and the other doesnt like to be touched all the time. It has to be the same. Because if it isn’t, I strongly believe that is when one person starts to have “wondering eyes” and will get it else where…if you know what I mean. I know that is not the truth about every single person in the world but it’s very important in a relationship. I have seen some fall apart because of that 3 letter word. Therefore, even if we stayed together it would not have been right. Yes, I can respect if he wanted to want longer…but how long? I love sex and I think it is beautiful and I am happy I am finally with someone that thinks it is has beautiful as I do. My boyfriend and I are very SATISFIED (I know this is random but do anyone remember that scene from Clueless where Dee is saying her man is satisfied even though they dont have sex…just thought of that for some reason lol) and I know he will never stray away hungry…not for that reason!
Anyways…
And I do hope he has found someone who hates all the same thing he does…I think she will be pretty hard to find, but maybe she’s out there…
Anyone have any past relationship’s that you were sooo glad you let get away? Haha
P.S. Another time we went to a Dollar Show movie…he refused to pay. No lie. And it wasnt a big deal. That was all the chunk change my broke self had at the time…so yes I paid $2 for us.

I Am Not Going To Settle

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“I am not going to settle”
So what does this sentence REALLY mean? You not going to settle for someone that is ugly? You are not going to settle for dark skin people…people with big ears or bug eyes.
I think these days people are taking these words a little over their heads…
Today at lunch time a few of my co-workers were having a discussion about how its sad how “young women these days” are in relationships where their boyfriends are degrading them, speak to them and use them any kind of way they want. I don’t know if they were speaking of anyone in particular (Reminds me of that situation where my co-worker sent me that message on the work messenger, mistakenly, saying how my boyfriend is “intimidating” me…but that story is in a previous blog…go check it out. Called “Messenger Scandal”) and I surely didn’t ask. And of course I agreed no one should be in any relationship where there is always negativity flying around.
My co-worker (The one that I seriously think is Bi-Polar) then says how she is not going to settle for any man. And I replied that I wouldn’t settle for someone that disrespects me constantly either. She then said that was not all she is talking about…she was referring to money and allll the glory that comes with it! She said her ex-husband made over $40K and she was used to having that and will not talk to a man with less.
First off, she hasn’t been with her ex-husband in over 5yrs so you think she would have gotten used to that by now.
Second, why is it always about money with people now a day?
And I am not trying to be mean by saying this next thing by any means necessary boys and girls so if you get offended, my bad…but a lot of these people that that I have spoken to that want wealth and gold in their mates…they are not really doing much with their lives thier own damn selves. Yes, they may have a 9 to 5 job, but how much are you making a year, sweetie? Yes, you went to school, but did you graduate? I am not trying to be mean or angry under any circumstances…I know its great to want more for yourself. Always look higher. But why look down on the man next to you when both of you are in the same place financially?
Yes, I know its pretty great. Money can buy you tons of things but what ever happened to just loving someone for who they are?
What if they did make $40,000/yr, but their profession was a cab driver, garbage man, or maintenance worker?
A woman I know told me one time how she was at the gas station and this guy was trying to talk to her. She said he was really cute and defiantly her type. She even gave him her real number. But then as he walked away, he got into a cab and drove away. She then said she wasn’t going to accept any calls from him because of the fact that he was a cab driver. And she knew this was pretty shallow of her but that’s just how she is.
I can understand wanting the best of the best, but just because that man was a cab driver didn’t mean he was going to love her any less? He could have loved her more than she ever knew a man could, but she would never know that because she thought he didn’t make a lot of money…and you never know…he could have been living in a mansion with 6 cars surrounding his house and he was just driving a cab as a hobby! lol
My thing is don’t set so many limitations that will block you from someone that may be meant for you.
That garbage man could give you the best years of your life!

I'm Just Not That Into You

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Hey Bloggers! So, now that I have a boyfriend, I guess men just love Ms.Vanilla (LOL). I am a very faithful woman. I love my man; we have a great trustworthy relationship. Therefore, I have not and would never cheat on him. That being said, a guy I used to talk to before my boyfriend has gotten back into contact with me via AIM (AOL Instant Messenger). He came right out and said he wants to see me. He lives about an hour away and just moved into another apartment and wants me to see it. Of course, I know how inappropriate this would be so I politely declined, but said we could, maybe, have lunch one day (Maybe meaning never). I gave my reasons on why…that I wouldn’t like my man going out with another woman and vise versa. He then said I was “tripping”…lol…couldn’t believe it. I kept the conversation and would love for my readers to read and let me know…who REALLY was tripping! And yes, I did use his REAL name and of course I am MsVanilla523. And I want you to notice how he tried to bring up why we stopped talking like that was my fault too! Here it goes
Reggie: so would u come up and hang with ya boi for a bit
MsVanilla523: I don’t think that would be appropriate for someone who is in a committed relationship. I wouldn’t want my man to be chilling with some other chick so I don’t do it …I am sure u know where I am coming from…
Reggie: i do
Reggie: But trust is got to be there
MsVanilla523: Oh it is
Reggie: plus im in a committed relationship as well
so whats the big deal
MsVanilla523: I rather not even put myself in that situation
Reggie: we friends
thats it
MsVanilla523: I know. I am not going to come to your apartment but maybe we can meet for lunch or something when u are down here
Reggie: K but u seem to be trippin about that. its not that deep, atleast not to me. but its cool, nevermind.
MsVanilla523: I am not tripping on anything. I have been with my man for 2 and half yrs. I have never even been out with another man before for even “coffee”. I just don’t…I never had a need to…basically because I have no male friends. He doesn’t have a need to go out with women because he doesn’t have female friends. It’s just how it is. I’m not trying to trip bout it…. that how my relationship is with my boyfriend and I respect that. It never has been an issue before, nor do I feel like making it one now. I said we could go out for lunch when u come into town. Is that not enough? lol
MsVanilla523: I’m just confused now…u don’t eat lunch?
Reggie: yea: i told u its cool
MsVanilla523: Lol Alrighty then
Reggie: u trippin
lol it aint that serious
MsVanilla523: lol ok. I guess I am then.I am not going to explain it again
Reggie: no need to
i understand
MsVanilla523: Oh I WASNT GOING TO lol
Reggie: OKAY GOOD
DUH Thats what i said
MsVanilla523: You are EXACTLY the same as I remember lol
MsVanilla523: Man
Reggie: u r too lol
MsVanilla523: Yeah, I still don’t deal with bullshit
Reggie: what the hell does that mean? u sayin im bullshit. wow, lets not go there. i still dont either, thats why we aint go no further then we did when we kicked it lol
Reggie: but its cool
i do understand
MsVanilla523: Wow
Reggie: u happy and im happy
MsVanilla523: Lol
Reggie: and i respect ur boundaries
as crazy as they seem
so
MsVanilla523: All I said was I don’t want to basically go to your apartment and I would rather just have lunch and this is what I get
MsVanilla523: Reggie, I am trying to be nice
Reggie: u went there
not me
MsVanilla523: And respectful to my boyfriend
Reggie: i am to
MsVanilla523: And I really don’t think you want to go there about we stopped talking cause it would hurt your feelings.
Reggie: Ok
MsVanilla523: I am not going to go there
And wasn’t going to bring that up
So
Reggie: i GOTCHU on that
MsVanilla523: I don’t think u should either
Reggie: bring what up
MsVanilla523: Exactly
Reggie: what will hurt my feelings? u musta forgot
why we stopped talking
MsVanilla523: Nooooooooooooooope. Not at all
I remember everything like it was yesterday
Reggie: well i remember on my end
u wanted to screw and i didnt want to go there LOL
MsVanila523: Lol Nope. I was okay with that and I told you that
Reggie: right……thats why u kept askin for it….lol
MsVanilla523: Yes, it would have been a struggle, but I would have gotten over the “no sex” thing….if you were straight with me about it. You never really told me if you were even celibate! I didn’t like how you didn’t even want to ACKNOWLEDGE we were “dating”. I wasn’t seeing anyone else and you wasn’t and we went out…THATS CALLED DATING….and I just didn’t agree that I had to date someone for 8 MONTHS before we got into a relationship…which you wanted to do! What is that? AND we argued too much. I never argue with anyone that I have talked to in the past…but you, therefore, I thought something want right about that. Plus, I didn’t care u didn’t want to have sex…but you didn’t even want to KISS ME…because you didn’t like the taste of another person’s tongue? WHAT? That’s weird when I can’t even kiss the guy I am dating.
Reggie: True
MsVanilla523: So yeah, So that what I said u are exactly the same. You always wanted to have the last word and always made an argument out of anything which u just did. I just said we could go to lunch and u said I was tripping! It seems that nothing makes u happy for some reason.
So that was the whole conversation. I didn’t quite understand WHY he got so mad. Maybe he really wanted me to come over so he could FINALLY hit this…BUT I got a REAL man so he lost those privileges! I just thought this whole thing was too funny and made me realize how happy I am with my man and how I am sooo glad I am not with him.
P.S. I really don’t think he got a girlfriend…who would want to argue constantly over silly shit…NOT ME!