Gossip – Krissy On The Daily®

I have been talked about…

I have had my business told…

I have had my name put through the dirt…

I guess people would say those things are apart of going through life. But does that make it right?

I have a problem of trusting people…but I really don’t see it as a “problem”. People have FUCKED UP so bad with me in the past where now that’s the only option I give myself. I have 3 best friends who I tell EVERYTHNG under the sun to…my boyfriend, and 2 girl friends. I know when I tell these people my personal things, I know they are not going to tell anyone, I know they are not going to judge me and I know they are going to give me their honest opinions. Therefore, I don’t tell my business. If I do, its small things that don’t mean too much.

The saddest part to me is I have 4 sisters…and I don’t trust ANY of them. I have known families where all the children are girls and I have noticed how all of them are so close. But not mine…maybe my sisters are just not close with me. Yes, I get along with them (on occassion) but the day I tell them a serious secret is the day pigs fly…cause it aint going to happen. They either tell each other, my cousins or my mom! And who wants their parents to hear their secrets? It’s fucked up shit and just gives me another reason to keep my shit to myself!

As I grow older, I also notice more and more how,sadly, women are most people who are really fucking everything up. Not all women…but a lot of women! I had this conversation with my boyfriend one time. He is 34 and never in his “adult” life (I dont think his childhood counts…all those stupid things we did) went to a man to tell him another man’s business. It just doesn’t happen a lot with men. Probably because THEY DON’T GIVE A FUCKING SHIT! Women love gossping, we love the drama and we love arguing!

I am going to be 25 next month and if you guys really want to know one truth about me. I can’t stand people talking about me and putting my business out there…I hate it! And the thing is, I am not like that with my friends. If one of them tells me something in confidence I am going to stand by that and don’t tell anyone. I am a God-fearing woman and I try my best to live my life right and to cherish the “real friends” I do have because I don’t have many because of the fact that I DON’T TRUST PEOPLE. That’s the kind of person I am…

I don’t need the drama in my life. I have cut off sooo many people in my life because of their drama. And you know what? It was the best thing I ever did. I have grown, I have matured and I am a real woman. And I think having my guard up is safe for me. I have my best friends and my faith. Thats all I need. Maybe some people don’t think having their guard up is a good thing…but for me it’s the best.

The other day I had to tell a really good friend of mine (Whom is also my co-worker) the guy she was dating at one point was engaged when they were dating and he is now married. I have never been in a situation like that before.

How do you tell someone that person they had been falling in love with pushed them away because their wedding date was nearing?

How can you tell someone their whole relationship with this person was a lie?

It was really sad for me and I felt horrible for her. I was in a tough spot by knowing this information and knowing I needed to tell her. I found out he was engaged at the end of their relationship (He and my friend) together and then he got married right after he told her it was over. I confronted this to him and told him he was a dog. Of course, he said he wasn’t and not to tell her because it would break her heart (Yeah, into a million peices). So, I thought since they weren’t talking anymore and that it was over she wouldn’t have to know and she could go on and meet someone better and forget about him. Then I found out…THEY ARE STILL TALKING! He’s telling her he misses her and he loves her…and then tells her not to tell me anything else because I am nosey!

I’m nosey!?!?

So I went to her and told her the one thing he wanted me to shut up about…his little secret! I told her she shouldn’t talk to him anymore and that he’s a dog and he’s not for her. She wanted to know why…and I told her…

Wanna know the tougest part about this…the guy is my cousin!

It makes me wonder how men can really be (Yeah, I know women can be the same way) He basically cheated on his fiance’ the whole time and then married her! What kind of marriage is that? How can ANYONE love someone where you cheat on that person the whole time and why would you dare marry her?

Someone else told me not to get in the middle of it and that it wasn’t my business. What would you guys have done if it was your friend? Could you honestly sit back and act like nothing is wrong and when she talks about him disregard what your conscience is telling you that this guy is MARRIED!

The funny thing is (Well, not so funny) if me and her didn’t meet and work and I didn’t find out she was dating my cousin, he would have gotten away with this. She would never have known unless something was different in their relationship. Which it wasn’t because they were still talking.

I now have a different view towards my “cousin”. He’s an idiot, a liar and a bitch. He’s not a man and still has a hell of a lot of growing up to do…

Until next time….

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