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Wrong Vs. Petty

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Last Wednesday was not a good day for me at work.
Back in September, when I got my nipples pierced, I told a few co-workers. They, of course, were very shocked. One of my co-workers thought it would be funny to tell another co-worker who is a man about them just to see what he will say…as a joke. So, I agreed. I IM’d him on the Yahoo Messenger and told him about it. Of course, he was shocked as well. The bad part of it is, I got into the conversation a little bit too deep. I got a little explicit. I basically just asked if he wanted to suck on them (Oopps) and he never really answered me (Thank God). I “lol” and changed the conversation and then it ended. I never asked for him to meet me anyway. I never asked for his number. I never went beyond that. It was COMPLETLY a joke and I thought he knew of this. I never spoke like that to him before and I thought by myself being so forward with it, he would know it was a joke as well.
Unfortunately, he didn’t. I saw him after work a few days later. I said hi and asked how he was. He then pulled out his phone and asked me for my number! I was shocked. All I did was smile, said “huh” and acted like I didn’t know what he was talking about. He asked me again and I said the same thing. He then became angry and said “Oh, you going to act like that?” turned and walked away.
I, of course, understood that he did take it the wrong way and thought I was coming on to him. Yes, I can certainly understand why. You just can’t say certain things to certain people without them getting “feelings” for you. Some people you can joke around with and left will still go on normally.
The next day, I tried to apologize. I went to his desk to say something to him, and he actually gave me the “hand” and said “BYE!” (Yes, he put up his hand! Who still does that? lol). I tried IM’ing him again and he wouldn’t answer me back! So I am certainly not about to bow down and break my legs to apologize to this man and he is acting like a damn child and won’t even talk to me. Yes, I dissed you but act like a man and grow up! After a while, I began to say hi to him and he said hi to me. He acted like everything was fine and there were no hurt feelings.
Last Wednesday, my manager called me in her office. She gets a call from the manager in Human Resources, and she wants to meet with me and my manager about an instant message. At this time, I had no idea what she was talking about (I honestly forgot about the whole thing by this time). That whole situation happened in September, so I wasn’t even thinking about it anymore. I got to the Human Resources manager’s office, and we sit down. She then goes on to tell me she is doing an investigation regarding an instant messenger conversation regarding “piercings”. She named the person I was talking with and gave me the printed conversation to remind myself of it. My heart began racing! I just couldn’t believe it! This man actually went to Human Resources on me! She then began to discuss Sexual Harassment. She said I wasn’t fired and that it wasn’t really Sexual Harassment but misusing work equipment on work time. But she still wanted me to take a Sexual Harassment course where it is her talking and let her know when I finish it.
At the end of the meeting, I was so pissed off! I was pissed off at myself for joking around like that. I was embarrassed my manager (Whom was another woman, but it still was embarrassing) had to read the conversation and know I am nasty like that (lol) and most of all, I was PISSED THE FUCK off because this grown ass man knew I wasn’t trying to harass him. He was just pissed off because I didn’t give his ass my number and I dissed him! And he is being petty as HELL about the whole damn situation and thought to get back with me he would go to Human Resources!
So what if I DID give him my number? Would he still have gone to HR? I don’t think so. I wouldn’t even be writing this blog right now if I just gave that man my number and just made his day! He is a pissed off man and wanted revenge and went to try and take someone’s job away as a result.
I was wrong … but he is petty as hell. He needs to grow up. Rejection is a part of life. And now I see why his ass is still fucking single. He got a problem…a real problem.

I Am Not Going To Settle

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“I am not going to settle”
So what does this sentence REALLY mean? You not going to settle for someone that is ugly? You are not going to settle for dark skin people…people with big ears or bug eyes.
I think these days people are taking these words a little over their heads…
Today at lunch time a few of my co-workers were having a discussion about how its sad how “young women these days” are in relationships where their boyfriends are degrading them, speak to them and use them any kind of way they want. I don’t know if they were speaking of anyone in particular (Reminds me of that situation where my co-worker sent me that message on the work messenger, mistakenly, saying how my boyfriend is “intimidating” me…but that story is in a previous blog…go check it out. Called “Messenger Scandal”) and I surely didn’t ask. And of course I agreed no one should be in any relationship where there is always negativity flying around.
My co-worker (The one that I seriously think is Bi-Polar) then says how she is not going to settle for any man. And I replied that I wouldn’t settle for someone that disrespects me constantly either. She then said that was not all she is talking about…she was referring to money and allll the glory that comes with it! She said her ex-husband made over $40K and she was used to having that and will not talk to a man with less.
First off, she hasn’t been with her ex-husband in over 5yrs so you think she would have gotten used to that by now.
Second, why is it always about money with people now a day?
And I am not trying to be mean by saying this next thing by any means necessary boys and girls so if you get offended, my bad…but a lot of these people that that I have spoken to that want wealth and gold in their mates…they are not really doing much with their lives thier own damn selves. Yes, they may have a 9 to 5 job, but how much are you making a year, sweetie? Yes, you went to school, but did you graduate? I am not trying to be mean or angry under any circumstances…I know its great to want more for yourself. Always look higher. But why look down on the man next to you when both of you are in the same place financially?
Yes, I know its pretty great. Money can buy you tons of things but what ever happened to just loving someone for who they are?
What if they did make $40,000/yr, but their profession was a cab driver, garbage man, or maintenance worker?
A woman I know told me one time how she was at the gas station and this guy was trying to talk to her. She said he was really cute and defiantly her type. She even gave him her real number. But then as he walked away, he got into a cab and drove away. She then said she wasn’t going to accept any calls from him because of the fact that he was a cab driver. And she knew this was pretty shallow of her but that’s just how she is.
I can understand wanting the best of the best, but just because that man was a cab driver didn’t mean he was going to love her any less? He could have loved her more than she ever knew a man could, but she would never know that because she thought he didn’t make a lot of money…and you never know…he could have been living in a mansion with 6 cars surrounding his house and he was just driving a cab as a hobby! lol
My thing is don’t set so many limitations that will block you from someone that may be meant for you.
That garbage man could give you the best years of your life!

Messenger Scandal

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I have been working since I was 16. I have held 6 jobs since then. I have gotten along with all of my co-workers and upper management. Of course, there is going to be gossip here and there. I have done it and I am sure there have been individuals who have gossiped about me.
I have been at my present employer for 2 years in mid-September. I remember on my 1ST DAY of work, while I was being trained my Supervisor had told me to not talk to too many people because there is a lot of gossip that goes around. I nodded my head thinking, “Ok, couldn’t be that bad. There is gossip everywhere.”
That day, I have lunch with another Supervisor and another co-worker. They basically told me the same thing. And then the Supervisor began talking about OTHER management. I was set back at this point. I have never been in a company where on the 1st day of employment I am warned about department gossip then hear management talking bad about other management. Of course, I knew that occurred…maybe back and forth between people that are on the same level, but in front of lower-level employees that you are over? Never.
In the “almost” 2yrs that I have worked here, I have never heard so much gossip IN THE WORKPLACE in my LIFE! And it’s everything you can think of…from people getting fired, to Supervisors having an affair with employees to Supervisors getting demoted. Lol It’s crazy!
Early February, management divided up my department into 2 parts. My part was more of the successful group who has achieved more, and they wanted us to do other projects. It was also smaller…about 13 people compared to the other group, which were about 50. I loved it. Less commotion, less people to see, less drama, less everything!
But then it started again. You see, management gave us the option of downloading Yahoo Messenger. We can just send a message to another co-worker or a Supervisor without having to get up or send an email and having to wait another hour for a response from that. Of course, a lot of us have been using it just to have casual conversations not work related and I know I am guilty of that.
My co-workers know I have a boyfriend. They know he lives in Chicago, and they know I am trying to move there to be closer to him. And that’s all they know. They know nothing about him personally.
Monday and today of this week I haven’t been feeling well. I had a huge headache all yesterday and I started my period today and have terrible cramps because of it (Sorry men out there lol). So, I haven’t been really social to everyone. I been keeping to myself and while everyone was asking me why I was so quiet, I just said nothing and kept working.
This morning I came in to work, turned on my computer and once on, turned on my Yahoo Messenger. I had 3 Offline Messages (For those not familiar with Yahoo Messenger…when you are offline and someone sends you a message you automatically get it once you log back on). The one that stuck out was from my co-worker and this is what it said: “and i know you are right, she has to learn on her own…….but tell me how he can be so intimidating to her all the way from Chicago, how is a dude gonna control you from another state and you say he wont even come here…..please” This message is obviously talking about my boyfriend and I (Whom lives in Chicago) and how, for whatever reason, they think he is controlling me? I don’t care what it means, I don’t care what the person that sent it thinks of my boyfriend, but I do care how my name is once again being thrown in the dirt…and somehow my poor boyfriend is coming along as well (Which really angers me even more because these people DON’T EVEN KNOW HIM…LET ALONE HAVE MET HIM!)
The even more sad part about this is that the person that sent this…she obviously meant to send this to another person. But by her “talking bout me” she made a mistake, picked my name from her Messenger List and sent it to me. This person is someone I have gone to on many occasions to discuss OTHER things I wanted to talk to someone about. I told her about my future wedding plans (Not engaged but ever so often I fantasize about it lol), my wedding scrapbook I am making, problems I have had with other people, the hours we do at work, how I cant wait to move to Chicago but never personal information about my relationship. I told my boyfriend about the situation and he said I should ask her about. Just ask if the message was meant for someone else and see what she says. He even said I should print it out and let her read it herself. I thought this was a great idea and did just that. I didn’t have an attitude when I did this and just smiled and waited for what she was going to say…and guess what it was…”I was actually talking to Pat (Another co-worker) and these first few words are mine but I don’t know where the rest came from” She then began to explain how maybe the IM’s got intertwined like the phone lines…when you can hear other people phone calls…maybe that’s what happened here and this is someone else’s message. Whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhattttttttt!!!!!!!!!!! First of all, I know she is new to Yahoo, but that just doesn’t make since at all. Whoever you send the message to…THAT PERSON IS GOING TO GET IT! You fucked up! Yo ass got caught now cough the TRUTH up! I am tripping so hard on her because this is someone I confided in and trusted. And it hurt that she stabbed me in the back…and for some reason, she is not the first…
Another co-worker I was getting close to stood me up a couple times when I invited her to go out. I let that go and we start going to the gym together. Talking everyday on the Instant Messenger. Same co-worker, I told her about my cousin that was PLAYING HER ASS so she wouldn’t look like too big of a dumb ass that she was dating a married man (And I hear she is still talking to his ass…damn bitch, is the dick that good!)! And you know how she thanked me? She stops talking to me…claims I did something to piss her off and when I ask her about it she doesn’t want to tell me why and then continues to not talk to me. Which is fine. One less bitch to deal with.
ANOTHER co-worker of mine is fucking Bi-Polar! One day she is talking my fucking ear off non-stop and the next she has a damn attitude and turns her WHOLE fucking chair around to have her back facing me and doesn’t talk to me for the rest of the day…then the next day she is hyper as hell again! I can’t take this shit! I aint used to meeting people like that!
I am already stressed at work because I am not getting paid enough and I am working 55hrs a week … Why is my life and my relationship so damn interesting to people?!?!
I am here to do 1 job. WORK. I am not here to meet friends. I would have liked to along the way but it looks like that shit is not going to happen. Therefore, leave me alone; leave my business alone and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, KEEP MY NAME AND THOUGHTS OF MY MAN OUT OF YOUR HEAD! I don’t know how else I can make that clear!
P.S. Instant Messengers are a dangerous thing (Especially for me…I don’t know why I keep getting messed up in these Yahoo scandals lol). If you don’t know how to use it, I suggest you don’t!